Say it. When you say the words
“I Love You”, they should carry with them the desire to show someone that you love them,
not what you simply want to feel. When you say it, make sure you really mean it
and are willing to do anything for that special person.
Empathize. Put yourself in
someone else’s shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to
control them, to understand how they feel,
where they come from, and who they are. Realize how they could also love you
back just as well.
If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is
not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an
advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other
person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of
life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that
person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves
and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are
not striving to love them unconditionally.
nothing in return.
That doesn’t mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It
means that giving love does not guarantee receiving
love. Try loving just for the sake of love. Realize that someone may
have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be
loved back in exactly the same way.
Posted by: Funke Oguntuga