Trust is the cornerstone to any
long-standing relationship and without it, you can’t
create a love affair.
as we know, is a crucial factor in any relationship. Many relationships have
broken up over trust issues.
Trust means to believe. I trust you, means I have no doubt in my mind about your honesty, integrity
and credibility. No relationship
can survive without trust. Once violated, trust is very difficult
to repair and rebuild, so it has to be guarded carefully and constantly
nurtured. It can be compared to a plant that needs the right soil, water and
temperature to flourish and attain full bloom. So too, trust requires the right
conditions and environment to sustain a relationship through highs and lows.
If partners trust each other in
a relationship, there is no guarantee that it will continue to stay that way.
You can never trust enough, nor can you take it for granted. You have to
constantly build on it.
What are the barriers to
building trust in a relationship?
1. Desire to control
When one partner or the other
seeks to control the relationship and wants to achieve the upper hand, it is
very difficult to meet on equal ground and establish trust. If you are not
happy in a relationship and constantly seek to change your partner and dictate
terms, it is not an environment conducive to building trust. Your partner will
withdraw and alienate himself/herself from you.
If you are always trying to hide
things from your partner, or lie by omission, or only tell him/her what you
think he/she needs to hear, you are not just being dishonest with your partner
but you are not being true to yourself either. Remember that if you’re doing
something wrong that you can’t talk about to your partner, it’s not about
hiding it from your partner but whether you can live with it. Whatever you do,
have the courage of your convictions and there will never be the need to be
When we focus only on our needs
and ourselves, we tend to do things that don’t help the relationship and will
probably cause a rift in it. If you have selfish motives, it erodes the trust
that your partner has placed in you and causes a loss of faith. This in turn
hampers the growth of the relationship and causes it to stagnate.
Keep a date with me for more on
this. We shall together explore factors that enhance trust and more…………..
Posted by: Funke Oguntuga