Sexual intimacy in
marriage is critical to a healthy, happy relationship between husband and wife.
Along with the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual aspects, God designed husband and wife to enjoy
the experience of sexual intimacy in marriage: intimacy, as we’ve just defined
it, is the ultimate human experience! Love, marriage, and sex are the three building blocks making
sexual intimacy possible. Love—contrary to the vast majority of songs on the
radio about this topic—is about meeting the needs of others, and is not about
self-gratification. Obviously, you don’t need marriage to have sex; but you
certainly do need marriage to experience the authentic, sex God intended!
emphasis are just the sexual act; it leaves people empty, dissatisfied, and
feeling guilty. This explains just one reason why pornography (even apart from
the terrible psychological addiction), is so destructive: it delivers a
momentary, addictive pleasure without the core dimension of intimacy.
Frustration accumulates when a husband and/ or wife are not able to communicate
about problems, desires, fears, or a host of other regularly unspoken issues
that impact their sexual experience.
difficult topics to be openly discussed. What if the wife has no interest in sex?
On the other hand, is there freedom to share sexual fantasies with your
spouse? Can both partners openly share what they think about their
sex life, as well as every other part of their lives?
Caring for your partner means providing them with the sexual experience that
pleases them, on their terms, in their way, in their time frame. A husband
caring for his wife might mean he focuses on slow and gentle caresses, speaking
of her beauty and his love for her, or perhaps practicing giving a full body massage!
Commitment to sexual intimacy in marriage involves doing what is necessary to
achieve it, and eliminating whatever is necessary that impedes it. Commitment
also translates into time: you must prioritize your time for sex since busyness is one factor that always gets in the way.
- Common Values
Intimacy will not be produced when values held by husband and wives are in