Some men and women today are now scared to get married because of many
reasons. One of the reasons why they have fear of marriage is because of the
continuous high divorce rates. When you look at the statistics, about 40% of
marriages end up in divorce and if the couples don’t divorce, they will end up
in a disappointing stage in their marriage.
However, you need to understand what marriage is and its importance to you
in order to make a decision whether or not to get married. Feeling this way is
natural and here are the things you can do to overcome your fear of marriage
and enjoy a long lasting relationship.
- Plan your married life. It is highly important to discuss
all your concerns before committing yourself to someone who you will spend the
rest of your whole life with. Do not hesitate to discuss questions to your
partner like – How many children will you have? Who will be responsible in
managing the money? Will both spouses work or will the wife stays at home and takes care of the
kids? These questions will not only prevent conflict when you get married but
planning all these things will also make you closer and good decision makers.
- Know the reasons why you are scared. Take a close look at
the basis of your fear. As human beings, emotions are important and one should
pay attention to feelings. Ask yourself if your fear of marriage is general or
non-specific. Many people are scared of marriage because of chances of its
failure. The most important thing to do is to realize your fears before saying
- Decide whether or not you have chosen the right person.
Always remember that you should not marry the person that you can live with for
the rest of your life, instead marry the one whom you cannot imagine yourself
living without. Never be pressured into marrying someone. There are times when
your fear of marriage comes from doubts regarding the person who you are
- Remember that marriage is not always a bed of roses. You
have to realize that no marriage is perfect neither you nor your partner. Marriage
is a hard work and it will take your whole life to complete it. Fights will
usually happen and problems will come up. The secret to a successful marriage
is finding a harmonious way on how to deal with these bumps in the road and be
ready when disagreement happens.
- Seek pre-marital counseling. When you seek some
professional help from a marriage counselor or a psychologist, it doesn’t mean
that you are having problems but you are finding ways to get well-prepared, how
to have a successful married life and also how to overcome your fear of
- Being honest with yourself and your partner. Before
wearing that wedding ring, be honest with yourself and your partner. Before the wedding, you have to come clean
with no worries and be knowledgeable on how to overcome future marital problems
or troubles. Keep in mind that if you allow your fear of marriage to prevent
you from settling down, you might be single for the rest of your life. Do not
be afraid to take the risk and accept the responsibilities you are facing.