status or our position in life to “lord” it over others to get what we want.
True humility is putting those things aside and allowing ourselves to reach out
to others in their time of need.
to demonstrate humility in relationships
an old country song “when you’re perfect in all respects.” Very few people,
of course, actually think they’re perfect in all respects, but it can still be
pretty hard to be humble, especially when you live in a society that encourages competition and individuality. Even in such a culture,
humility is an important virtue. Learning to be humble is of paramount
importance in most religions and spiritual traditions, and humility can also
help you develop as a person and enjoy richer relationships with others.
Accept advice from others.
directions when you got lost?
Men have an especially hard time asking for help because
they think it indicates personal weakness. They don’t want to look stupid.
Unfortunately, to not ask advice from others signals another personal weakness
— namely pride.
Admit when you’re wrong.
someone and they admit it. They take responsibility for their actions,
especially conflict situations.
Own your wrong and the hurt it has caused, even if it’s unintentional.
important anniversary, but that doesn’t excuse the hurt, and a wise man owns up
to it. A wife might accidentally leak something to a girlfriend that her
husband wished kept confidential. A humble wife confesses the slip.
intentionally mean or forgetful, they shouldn’t have to admit fault. Such
thinking would allow us to go through life with reckless abandon leaving many
in our wake.
relationships? Then make sure not to commit the following things that
- Giving hurtful comments. Are you hurting others by your lack of tact? You
might think that you’re being helpful, but your intentions might have hurt
the other party instead. Put yourself in others’ shoes first. If it’s not
a comment you appreciate hearing yourself, then perhaps it’s not something
others will appreciate either
- Giving solutions when the person is really looking for
a listening ear. Probably an understatement: A
lot of times what people want is a listening ear. Deep down, people have
solutions to the problems they are facing – they are just looking for
someone to share their frustrations with because they have had a long and
hard dayBe more conscious of what the other party is looking for, and
adjust accordingly to fit that.
- Being judgmental; Thinking you are above others. No one likes to be judged or labeled. If you are
constantly judging others for what they do/say, it might be good to
reflect that upon yourself. Putting someone off doesn’t make someone
a better person; it just makes him/her appear insecure.
- Not listening.
Are you present in your conversations with others? Or is your mind on
something else? When conversing with someone, learn to not only listen,
but listen actively. Seek out the underlying message behind what someone
Humility is a
timeless virtue that’s appreciated by everyone.