different answers. Love means so many different things; love is defined by who
we are, where we come from and what we were raised to believe. It comes from
us, our families, and our culture.
I have always been partial to this definition…
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
It is not self-seeking, nor easily angered.
It keeps no record of wrongdoing.
It does not delight in evil,
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
There is nothing love cannot face;
There is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of
these is love.
I can define what love means to me, but I can’t even begin to define love for
you or anyone else. Love is the most personal of all emotions. We each feel it
in different ways, even within our many relationships love changes to fit the
A lot of people struggle with the definition of love in their relationships,
perhaps instead of defining what love is we should remember what love is not.
Love isn’t supposed to hurt, love isn’t supposed to hit, love is not supposed
to hold you down.
|Nigerian Nollywood sensation…Susan Peters|
1. Feelings – should not be the basis for love because they
are transient and passing. You can’t have feelings for your loved one for
the rest of your life that’s a fact.
2. Sex – love is more than what
sex can give such as commitment, patience, sacrifices, respect etc. Having sex
with someone doesn’t mean that you already express your love to him/her. Once
again, this shouldn’t be our basis for love.
3. Out of control – True love
knows what is right, good and proper; it always seek for the good of the other.
4. Affection/Attraction – can die
down and disappear, completely but true love lasts.
5. Blind – because true love is
reasonable it seems and understands what is right and good.
6. Falling in love – We don’t
fall in love so as to not to fall out of love. We should “grow in
love”.Love is NOT abuse!