Suddenly Single.


Getting dumped can be painful and it
really sucks; there’s no doubt about it. There aren’t many things more
heart-wrenching than finding out that the person you love thinks he will be
better off without you. But this news can really make your guts fall on the
floor when it comes completely out of left field.
If  a “ sudden breakup” has happened to you in the
past, I don’t have to remind you  of how
much it hurts. But the good news is that I can show you how to make sure it
never happens again. Keep reading.
You see, the tell-tale signs of an
inevitable breakup will always be there if you know what to look for. And while
there are many indicators that point to minor relationship problems, we’re
going to be looking at the big four which indicate that a breakup is very
likely to happen in the near future.
Once you notice these signs, you can
make the decision to address your issues before it’s too late, or you can turn
the tables and end the relationship first, on your terms.

Breakup Warning Sign #1: Your partner starts distancing himself either
physically or emotionally.

The first red flag is any kind of distancing behavior, either physical or
emotional. “Physical distancing” occurs when your partner seems to be making
less and less time for you. All of a sudden, he may seem to be avoiding the
typical “couple” activities you’re used to doing together.

“Emotional distancing” is a more
subtle, but much stronger indicator that things are heading south in your
relationship. Have you noticed any changes in the way that your partner
communicates with you, such as a lack of eye contact or a different voice tone?
Have you noticed that most of your conversations are now boring and trivial?
Does he avoid discussing future plans for the two of you? These are all good
signs that your partner’s emotional investment in the relationship is starting
to rapidly deteriorate.
Breakup Warning Sign #2: Your
partner makes big changes to his daily routine.

One of the most obvious signs of a troubled relationship is when your partner
has rearranged his entire schedule in order to spend less time with you. Now,
sometimes a promotion at work, for instance, might be to blame but if you find
that he’s consistently stuck at the office until the wee hours of the morning,
there might be something else going on there.
Another thing to watch out for is
when your partner starts spending time with a new group of friends. If his new
crew consists of a bunch of happily married, church-going choir boys who wake
up early on Sundays to take their children to little-league, you probably won’t
have much to worry about. But if they happen to be a bunch of hardcore
party-boys who bring your man home drunk and stumbling on a Wednesday morning,
you have every reason to be alarmed.
The bottom line is that our friends
have more influence over us than we might think, so beware when your man starts
hanging out with a bunch of womanizing ex-cons and take frequent “business”
Breakup Warning Sign #3: You notice
a change in the frequency of your arguments.

Constant fighting hardly has any perks or benefits. But don’t be so quick to
rejoice when your daily arguments seem to disappear completely. A sudden
reduction in the amount of fights and arguments in your relationship could mean
that your partner has started to minimize his emotional investment. Withdrawing
quickly from confrontations is a common behavior of those who are either
incredibly frustrated with their partners or have stopped caring completely.
And of course, the exact opposite
can also be a warning sign.

Since most people dislike the guilt that comes along with being “the bad
guy,” one very common behavior is the act of purposely starting petty fights
and pushing your partner’s buttons in the hopes that they will flip out and say
or do something that would make them look like the bad guy. Once this happens,
the instigator will have an excuse to justify their desire to leave the
relationship. our ears should perk up if you find your partner suddenly picking
petty fights and blowing up on you for no reason – even more so when his
arguments are fueled by blind rage and make no logical sense whatsoever.

Breakup Warning Sign #4: The level
of physical intimacy has dropped to an all-time low.

When your partner takes “physical distancing” to the next level, you will
notice that the loving physical contact (cuddling, massages, foreplay, etc.)
has almost disappeared completely. I firmly believe that the level of intimacy
in your relationship says a lot about the strength of your romantic connection.
Loving physical contact is one of the most powerful ways of connecting with
someone and when it starts to vanish from a relationship, it acts like a crack
in the ceiling that allows the rain to start coming through.
I’d also like to point out that it’s
quite normal for your bedroom routine to vary over time due to numerous
factors, but if you find that your man has stopped making advances altogether,
this is usually a sign that there is something seriously wrong in the
relationship. It’s even worse when he resists of all of your advances, as well.
Shying away from physical contact is
a tactic frequently used by women to maintain a level of power in the
relationship. But when men do this, it’s usually because they are losing
interest or have someone else on the side.

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