Many of us, especially women, tend to put others’ needs before our
own. We neglect ourselves and eventually resent those who have been
on the receiving end of our love and attention. What we fail to
realize is the importance of putting ourselves first. No, it is not
selfish. In fact, it’s impossible to meet the needs of others
effectively without first being balanced in our own lives. Loving
yourself will not only prove to be a positive experience, but it
will improve your relationships with others as well.
If we go through our days neglecting our basic needs, we will
become very quickly drained of our energy, too exhausted to spend
any time on ourselves. When we realize that our own needs are not
being met, we become resentful and ultimately withdraw the help and
support we so freely offered to others before. However, by focusing
on putting ourselves first, we can regain that lost energy, which
will give us endless vitality to direct toward others.
Loving and taking better care of yourself is easy if you implement
one or more of the simple helpful tips and ideas listed here. When
we are happy with the level of attention we are giving ourselves,
our energy overflows and we are anxious to help fulfill the needs
of those around us. Everyone wins when we learn to love ourselves.
Use the following tips to get you started:
Live a healthy lifestyle – How can we expect to accomplish great
things if we cannot meet life’s most basic needs? Eat healthy by
replacing excess sugar and refined foods with whole foods and lots
of water. Give your body the ability to effectively burn the fuel
you take in by getting daily exercise, thereby increasing your
metabolism. Make sure to get plenty of sleep as well, as our minds
do not fully function if they haven’t been allowed to properly
Express yourself – One of the best ways to take care of ourselves
mentally is by frequently expressing how we feel. This can be done
in several ways. Mentally, we can express ourselves on paper.
Keeping a personal journal in which you can vent when needed will
help keep emotions in check.
such as allowing yourself to feel and experience the wide range of
emotions in a rented movie, or by working on a hobby that’s close
to your heart. Photography and other visual arts are good for
this. Remember, expressing ourselves creatively is as important as
doing so mentally.
Spend some time alone – In order to appreciate ourselves more, we
should get to know ourselves better. Some of you may think this
will have the reverse effect, but think positively! You would be
surprised what becoming introspective will reveal. Discover
yourself and learn to love it. Go for a scenic drive. Take a long
bath. Surround yourself with music or just quietly meditate. Not
only will you appreciate your own company more, but the relaxation
will do wonders for your state of mind. Your relationships are sure
to improve if others sense your renewed energy and love of life.
Pamper yourself – Finally, take the time to treat yourself to
something rewarding. Get a massage, a manicure, or tickets to your
favorite sporting event. Show yourself you care about your own
happiness by creating more of it in your life. By allowing yourself
to enjoy the spotlight now and again, you’ll realize the goodness
others feel when you are able to help them.