A friend is supposed to be there for you through good times and bad. What can you do to restore a friendship?
can you do when your friend blabs your secret all over school, ditches
you at lunch when the cool crowd asks him to sit with them, doesn’t
follow through on a promise, excludes you from her social plans,
badmouths you behind your back, teases you about something you’re really
sensitive about or forgets plans she made with you or cancels at the
When these kinds of things happen, you can feel hurt,
confused, upset and really sad. This friend who has always meant a lot
to you has now let you down in a big way. You want to keep the
friendship going, but you don’t like how you were treated either. So how
should you respond?
Do you believe you have the right friends? Are you someone who is
only interested in having friends who are beneficial to you, not ones
who bring you down or contribute to your demise? It is up to you to have
a circle of friends who do not ruin your life. By reading this article,
you will learn how to recognize the types of friends that bring you
down.It’s great to have friends, whether we’re single or married. People
we can laugh and cry with; people we know will be there for us when we
need them; people we trust and love. But what happens when that trust
has been broken – when you feel a friend has let you down?
Communication is the key
the friendship is one you value, then you’ll long to sort things out.
You may feel so desperately hurt that you’re unwilling even to approach
your friend – but communication is the key.
your friend; tell her how you feel. You may find it’s all been a
misunderstanding. It can be a time for explanations, apologies and
reassurances, which will make your friendship even stronger.
it might not be so simple. Your friend may confirm that he meant what
he said – which will hurt you even more. Do remember it could be that
he, too, has felt hurt by something you did. This is a time for calm
discussion, rather than arguing and trying to get the last word. Focus
on putting things right, not letting it turn into an argument.
If you both feel you can’t resolve it while you’re still hurt and angry, then you might agree you need some space. Take time out, then get together again at a later date to try to resolve things. But don’t let things fester.
In our friendships, as in all our relationships, remember the importance of forgiveness. Forgiveness isn’t easy. It doesn’t deny the fact that you’ve been hurt, but it does enable you to let go and put it behind you.
How much do you know your friends? Do you even carefully choose them?
Identify the friends who bring you down
- The people you have a relationship with make fun of you instead of offering you support. They ridicule the way you dress and laugh every time you mess up or get into trouble.Your friends cannot and will not accept you for who you are. No matter how hard you try to fit in or please them, you are just not good enough for them. All they are interested in are your possessions and how they can use you to get some of the things they want.
- The people you are involved with use or sell illegal substances, engage in gang activity or break the law. Have you heard the term of “guilt by association”? If you are with others when they do something wrong, you can go down with them.
- The people who are supposed to be your pals want to see you do something wrong and get into trouble. Anyone who has the desire to see you go down the wrong path is definitely not a true friend.
- The people you hang around are always miserable or upset. Their misery can kill your joy, especially if you are concerned with trying to make them feel better.
- The people you want to be your friends are losers. They do not try to do something useful with their lives. They are combative and willing to fight you if you say something they are not happy about.
- Your so-called friends are a bad influence on you. They have impure thoughts and tendencies that rub off on you and help make you someone who is not desirable.
- They turn their backs on you. They betray you or let you down by breaking their promises and not being there for you when you need help.
You have learned how to recognize the types of friends that bring you down. Follow this advice to avoid going down the wrong path!