is in a rut? Like you do and say the same things over and over again? Like you
might spend time together, but you are no longer really seeing each other? One
of our greatest human needs is to connect with each other. But if we are not
careful, we can slowly drift apart as a couple. Our contact can become rote and
mechanical. Allowing your relationship to slide into and blindly follow a rut
can leave you feeling drained, lifeless and disappointed.
of a rut? How can you start to revitalize your relationship?
It begins with awareness. You first have to recognize that your relationship is in a
rut. It also helps to recognize what you are doing to contribute to the
disconnection between the two of you. What are you doing to avoid spending time
together? Some work late, others put all their energy into the kids, hobbies,
socializing, etc. Becoming aware of the problems gives you the opportunity to
start making different choices.
on your relationship.
the television off while you eat dinner. Go for a walk together. Offer a foot
or shoulder rub. Change some routines; consciously choose some better habits.
Let’s face it, we do most of what we do in life by habit. We can take advantage
of this fact by deciding what habits would help us feel more alive and
connected in our lives. Then consciously choose to do those things until they
become the new habit.
it till you make it. This starts with identifying how you
would like your relationship to be and specifically how you would think and
behave in that ideal relationship. Now start acting and thinking that way.
Smile more, be more positive, be present in your relationship and give much
more positive than negative feedback to your partner. You can be the catalyst
that starts your relationship on an upward rather than downward spiral.
willing to experiment until you find what works for you, you can have a more
unable to pull your relationship out of the rut, you may want to seek
professional help before the problems are beyond repair.