Q: Dear Funkky,
I am almost 30 and has been
single basically always. That would be fine except i desperately want someone special in his life cos far above and beyond being desperate to settle down, i am becoming unhappy being single at his age.The big issue is that i won’t approach girls i find unattractive, i have very high ideals of
what i want and i always finds flaws. What do you advice?
It just seems like a lost cause…..please help me
Dear Unhappy Single,
We all have standards. We all want the
best. Hell, we even think we are the best! Though it’s nice to stroke
the ego from time to time, we must understand perfection isn’t humanly
attainable and flaws are part of our makeup. We are perfectly imperfect.
And guess what? It’s good to be
imperfect! Our imperfections separate us from everyone else in the
world. There are millions of attractive, unattractive, happy, unhappy,
tall, short, slim, round, black, white people in the world, but each one
has their own story completely unique to themselves and someone loves,
cares, and appreciates them.
Walking around trying to fit everyone in
a box will not happen, so I would challenge you to expand your thought process, be more receptive to differences, and remove the lenses
blurring his vision from seeing the happiness of life. I’d be willing
to bet there have been many women who have crossed your path that could
have easily been your girlfriend, but sometimes our own perceptions ruin
Unhappiness is a product of the self, so
the only way to reverse that feeling is to examine ourselves. True
change always starts from the inside out; once we are able to identify
our own shortcomings and make peace internally, the world always finds a
way to make all the other pieces fit.