Are you someone like me who have a hard time saying “no” to others?
Are you someone like me who love to volunteer and serve your community?
Are you someone like me who love to help everybody in needs?
someone asks you to do something, whether they are your friends, your
parents, your siblings, your relatives, your kids, your husband, or
someone you know in your communities such as churches or any kind of
organization, you want to help because you have a loving heart. Right?
You want to serve because it makes you feel useful. You want to
volunteer and give back to life. You want to give because that is the
way to live a happy life. It makes you feel very good about living your
life on purpose and being there for others.
We are here to serve and love others.
The truth is you can’t say “Yes” to everything even though your heart wants to serve everybody.
The challenge comes when you need to say “no”.
The question is “How do you say “no” gracefully without feeling guilty?”
Here is how.
1.Thank you for this wonderful opportunity. I would really love to help, but I am not available at this time.
you for thinking of me. I can’t help this time, but please ask me again
in the future. I would love to help when I can.
3.Thank you for asking me. I already have another plan.
thank people who ask you to do something. Thank that person sincerely.
You are asked to do something because people see you as a loving heart
person who wants to serve. Perhaps you are a very easy person to talk
to. You have been saying “yes” to everything.
The important key to keep in mind is that you do not owe your explanation to anyone. You have the right to say “no”.
world does not end when you say “No”. Someone else will take care of
situations. It is an opportunity for you to rejuvenate, rest, and get
Guilt is poison. You don’t need to feel guilty by
saying “no” to others. You can choose to feel good about yourself,
stand up for yourself, and take care of yourself. The more you take
care of yourself, the bigger room you have for serving others. It is
all o.k.to get away from the crowd for awhile to restore, rejuvenate,
All is well.
Once you say “no” enough, then, you can go back to say “yes” more. Get some rest! Enjoy your quiet time.
The more you rest, the best serve you can contribute.
Always do everything with love. If you can’t put your whole heart into it, don’t do it.
It is not an amount of work that counts. It is your amount of love that matters.