word, yes! Relationships are hard. Anything worth having
is worth fighting for, don’t you think? And yes, negotiating the sometimes
stormy waters of
a relationship can definitely be difficult from time to time. But the difficult
times should not
be constant, and the relationship itself shouldn’t feel like work. If it does,
perhaps you need to
redefine what the two of you are looking for.
relationship to not see eye-to-eye on everything. And that’s
okay. You don’t have to agree upon everything. It actually keeps things within
interesting and lively if you each have your own individual interests. But
ultimately, if you want
to keep the relationship moving forward, compromise and communication are the
essential elements needed to keep your relationship sailing smoothly.
There are plenty of couples out
there who have knock-down, dragged out fights, and they are
completely and totally in love with each other. Fighting works for them. Other
weather a simple disagreement and break up when contention rises between them.
is different and you and your partner need to find your own way for what works
for you. You
can read all the relationship books in the world, and many offer very helpful
tools and tips
to making your relationship work. But in the end, it comes down to what each of
separately from the relationship along with what you want as a couple.
own timetable. Don’t let anyone else dictate to you where
you should be at three, six or twelve months in. You will be exactly where you
are supposed to
be. Two people and two people only are steering this ship—you and your partner.
If you try to
rush things before either one of you are ready, you are headed toward rocky
territory. One of the
biggest problems some couples face is getting too many opinions from their
friends and family
as to how to work out the difficult issues that arise. Work those issues out together—between
the two of you. Getting multiple opinions from people outside the relationship
will only serve to
confuse things between you and your partner.
out-of-hand and you’re hoping to salvage the relationship, you
may consider seeing a professional counselor who can help the two of you work
things out. But
try to avoid involving friends or family which will only complicate matters. A
relationship therapist is an impartial third party who will give be able to
shed some perspective
on the relationship and hopefully help you work out the issues which are
between the two of you.
are hard, and you need to stay committed and focused if
you want your relationship to go the distance and succeed. But it shouldn’t be
torture to be in
a relationship. It should be fun and rewarding, enjoyable and loving. One
that seems to work as far as gauging the success of your relationship says if
you are 100 percent
happy with your relationship 50 percent of the time, you’re doing great. So
learn to work things
out, pick your battles and be sure to enjoy each other. Life is so much better
when you can share
it with someone you love.