Love is the art of treating the
loved beautifully. This art is accomplished, as in all the arts, by
skillful performance which is acquired by experience, study, observation and
training. The aim of the art known as love is to powerfully and
ingeniously create mutual, beautiful, aesthetic living experiences for and with
the loved sometimes resulting in exquisite, awesome, intimate enrichment
unavailable by any other means.
Real love can be defined as a
special case of equity theory. A person emotionally invests, has their
investments accepted and gets a positive, equitable return on their emotional
investment in this definition. This causes further investment and as
additional returns build up emotional equity is stored. The stored
emotional equity can be drawn upon in times of negative return or low
return. However, unless the accumulated, emotional equity is considerable
severe loss or continued lengthy low returns can lead to a cessation of
emotional investment which in turn can lead to a cessation of the love
Love is a powerful, evolutional,
genetically encoded survival mechanism whereby those life forms that strongly
attach to one another, or to some entity, produce a survival advantage often
involving superior cooperation, collaboration, coordinated effort, unity of
purpose, defensive tactics and strategies, and mutually reinforcing
pleasure-based, pain avoidant bonding.
Love is metaphysically defined as
the prime cause of cosmos and opponent of chaos, the pre-eminent, transcendent
uni–force in the universe uniting all being and creation together which in its
ontological, highest earthly manifestation, is the root life force permeating
and guiding all life toward life’s greatest transcendental advancements,
wholeness and primacy.
Love is a poorly understood
neurochemical, and perhaps neural electrical phenomenon, probably primarily
processed in the brain’s limbic system which was genetically evolved to make us
value, join with and assist the survival and healthful well-being of those loved
usually via interactional relationships.
Love is that which produces a set
of internal feeling states by which one senses great affection, care, warmth,
positive regard, continuing attraction, intimate personal connection and a
desire to share with, be beneficial to, protect and experience happiness
interacting with who or what is loved.
According to the theologies of many world religions real love is defined
something like: the true and total nature of God and, thus, the most important
of all things, the essence of all that is deific, the substance and the essence
of true spirituality, the first and always force which birthed creation, the
core power of divinity, the source of all other real loves, that which if we
are without makes us as nothing even if we have all other virtues, faith,
powers, knowledge, talents and wealth, and that which we are to be about above
Note: please remember that these seven definitions are just
composite samples of the many love definition efforts in a wide variety of
varying schools of thought and study. With that in mind, let me suggest
that you might want to work on your own personal definition of love.