I give talks on how to make wise decisions about love relationships, the
burning question that someone almost always asks is, “How long do I have to
wait?” The phrasing of this question illustrates the fact that waiting can feel
like working against the tide of biology and the romantic rush of falling in
love and making it official.
this question, I respond that most of the things that are worth achieving in
life require us to delay
indulgence in more primitive drives.Bottom of Form But of course, pointing out that not rushing into a pre-mature
commitment is very difficult when we’re in love doesn’t really address the
question at hand—that is, how long is it until the cocaine-rush of initial
infatuation wears off and you can make a good decision?
marital experts would argue that two years is a good amount of time to wait.
you are looking for a general rule of thumb, then two years is probably a good
length of time for most people, but I don’t personally favor any hard-and-fast
rule about how long a courtship should be.
I think it depends completely on the
character of the people involved, how often they see each other, in what
situation(s) they spend their time dating, and how intentional they are about
discovering their degree of fit. In some cases, it may be wise to wait three or
more years before making a decision, and in other cases, a couple may be able
to make a wise decision in less than two years.
I write this, I’m imagining that some readers may be thinking, “Three years?
Really? That seems like much too long!” If you are thinking along these lines,
the question to ask is, “When might it be wise to wait three years or longer?”
To this, I would say, a lengthy courtship would be wise any time three years
(or more) have passed but you still know relatively little about each
and Innocent Idibia AKA 2face’s Wedding Vow
humbled by the light and love in your eyes. 13 years ago, I met the most
amazing man on earth! I flew on the wings of that love, uncaring, unheeding!
Believing firmly that you are and will always be the wind beneath my wings .
heart beat only for you!My heartbreak became my greatest joy! My strength! My
life! Day after day I am more in love with you!
here! This moment! This second! Today! Tomorrow! Love is you! Love is real!
Love is my eternity with you Innocent Ujah Idibia
only has this imperfect girl found perfection!!!I do 13 years ago when I met
you, I do seven years ago, I do five years ago when we created our daughter! I
do through all the blogs and tabloid headlines
the world and I say I do take you as my wedded husband! I love you!
than the eyes could see.
lit it up
like the stars
not be enough
heart is like a stereo right now
till death do us part.