One artist that has gained the heart of his fans and loved by many for his unique style of music is Alariwo Of Africa.
performer, Alariwo, real name is Rotimi Martins, came to prominence over a
decade ago for his brand of Afropop music. Popularly known as Alariwo of
Africa, he remains relevant and continues to perform at high profile events and
conerts. Alariwo is also a married man and has three children with his wife,
Sola. Enjoy their marriage avowals below.
have been married for 17 years.
attracted you to her?
visited my friend alongside her friend and I was attracted to her conduct. Immediately,
I knew she would be mine. I knew I would be comfortable with her for the rest
of my life and I proposed to her on the first day.
Sola: I met him
in Oregun. That day, I went out with a friend and we ended up at her
boyfriend’s place. That boyfriend happened to be Rotimi’s friend and we started
talking. In fact, he proposed to me the first day he met me.
approached you, what went through your mind?
Sola: I had
just the normal feeling but I liked him.
Was he a
star when you met him?
Sola: No, he
was just a Deejay. It was after I met him that he went to the studio to record
his first album. That he was not a celebrity or star didn’t cross my mind. I
just liked him and agreed to marry him. When he became an entertainer, I didn’t
mind as long as it didn’t disturb my marriage.
times you wish he was not a musician?
How has the
marriage been over the years?
Interesting but sometimes challenging. In all, our love for each other and our
children has kept us going.
takes the grace of God to be in a sustained marriage and be a father, a husband
and a musician.
Do you get
jealous when his female fans come around?
should I? That would be foolhardy of me because he is a musician. Entertainment
attracts women and it would be unfair to send them away with my jealousy. I
don’t get jealous because his kind of job entails women flocking around him.
Besides, I know he is all mine when he gets home, so why bother with any woman
In what ways
has marriage changed the both of you?
ways. While we were dating, we never cared about any other person aside the two
of us but now, we have responsibilities.
Sola: Some of
the things we did while we were courting have stopped because of the children.
Apart from that, I am not the outgoing type and I’ve never encouraged having a
maid at home. When we go out now, we go as a family to see movies, eat out and
party. We always observe a family holiday.
parents happy that you wanted to marry an entertainer?
Sola: No, they
were not angry but they were a bit apprehensive. Then, entertainment was no big
deal and their initial reaction was expected. Later, they embraced the
relationship and I don’t think they regret allowing me to marry him.
Initially, her parents were a little bit uncomfortable because I was an
entertainer. When my parents met her, in less than an hour, they knew she was
the right person for me.
quarrel who is the first to apologise?
Sola: Most of
the time, I apologise first. I go on my knees and I tell him I am sorry.
Alariwo: If she
is at fault she will apologise and vice versa.
apologising verbally, what other things do you do to show remorse?
Alariwo: I make
it up to her by buying her gifts or I take her out on a date.
How do you
spend time together as a couple?
Sola: See a
movie or sometimes, we go out.
schedule is very busy but I do create time to spend with them.
those things you dislike about each other?
Sola: I don’t
like my husband’s temper. He gets angry easily. He’s hot-tempered.
does not like my temper. I don’t like when she demands for money—her timing is
bad. This is a common feature with most women and I don’t like it.
you say has kept your marriage going all these years?
love and the fear of God.
Patience, tolerance, understanding and the grace of God have been keeping our
being his wife, what else do you do?
Sola: I am into
business— I buy, I sell and I make jewellery and accessories.
What are the
best gifts you have given each other?
Alariwo: I have
given her cars and she has given me three beautiful children.
will you give to couples especially those who are in the limelight?
Alariwo: I will
always advise that, ‘See but pretend you didn’t see. Hear but you pretend as if
you never heard.’ That way, you are not influenced or controlled by external
factors. This keeps your home in place.
Sola: First, I
will advise the women. When you see anything, pretend as if you didn’t see.
Whatever you hear anything, feign ignorance. That way, you will be at peace,
your marriage is in place and you are happy. Moreover, couples should respect
and tolerate each other’s shortcomings. You should know that you are from
different background and had a different upbringing.
What kind of
man is your husband?
Sola: He is
very caring and loving as a husband. As a father, he is loving and second to
none. He puts his family first in everything and he does not fail to provide
for our needs.
times when you are suspicious of your husband?
Sola: Yes, I am
not a perfect woman and sometimes, such things bother me. But when I remember I
am the only one in his life, I perish such thoughts.