Dr. Sherrie Campbell, who specializes in love and relationships, lays
out five steps to help you find out if you should care about what others think
about who you are dating.
WHAT THEY THINK OF YOUR LOVE INTEREST MATTER?
Steps to Finding Your Answers by Sherrie Campbell, PhD, author of Loving
ANALYZE THE SITUATION
jealousy or envy be a part of their dislike?
your new love treat your friends with kindness and respect?
your new love flirtatious with any of your friends?
he/she attentive to you?
your new love treat you respectfully in front of your friends?
you complain about your new love to them?
see from their eyes what this person could possibly being doing that they view
CONSIDER THEIR FEEDBACK
can see that something they are saying about your new love is true take this
information in and decide how you want to handle it with your new love.
you need to explain to your friends that your new love does not mean these
behaviors in a negative way to help them better understand his/her personality?
QUESTION YOUR NEW LOVE
you feel pressured to be with your new love and not your friends?
he/she talk to you nicely and treat you with respect?
your new love self-sufficient and responsible?
notice your new love is being rude to your friends then it is up to you to
create the peace. Keep in mind if your new love deeply cares for you then they
will treat your friends with respect because your new love will want their
respect in return knowing they are important to you.
QUESTION YOUR FRIENDS
you feel pressured not to see your new love to be with your friends?
you feel threatened you will either lose them or your new love because there is
not enough of you to please everyone?
friends really are just being too needy which is part of the reason that
communication is so important here. If it is really your friends who are
jealous then there is not much you can do about that except to tell them it is
what it is and eventually, if they are true friends, they will adjust and be
happy for you.
BALANCE YOUR TIME
your friends think you are not spending enough time with them then you need to
do something to repair that. Do not lose touch with girl time. Commit to
putting time for them into your schedule. There is not friend out there
who will be ok with being totally abandoned for your new relationship.
Because you treasure your friends, find ways to let them know they are
invaluable to you.
Life Message: Do not lose yourself trying to prove yourself. Follow your
heart and walk your path because your own lessons in life can only come from
experiencing the consequences of your decisions. Dr. Campbell suggests,
“Ask yourself, at what point do you learn to live for yourself without
feeling like you have to prove yourself and your choices to everyone?”