My experience with Johnny was one of the lowest points in my emotional life. I couldn’t understand why a guy I loved so much and spent a lot of time with, had other girls in his life and was able to keep a “healthy” relationship with us all – sighs. Is he omnipotent and omnipresent? I tire o!
It wasn’t funny though. At one point, it seemed the story of me dating a Johnny that lived in Lekki, was everywhere. What further confirmed it was when Deji, a radio presenter for MTN Top Ten Countdown, asked me questions about Johnny during a recorded interview. I literally froze! How could he have known so much about my personal life? His questions were direct and well informed. He kept throwing them at me with his straight face, and his hypnotic calm questioning voice – the type a shrink would use for his patients.
Still maintaining his straight face, he suddenly asked me “Do you know that your Johnny is getting married?” I felt my spirit leave my body and return with flames from hell fire, I started sweating. I looked outside the recording booth to see if I could signal my manager to save me from this emotional torture but the studio booth was a 100 percent sound proof. Mr Taiye Aliyu (my manager), couldn’t hear anything we were saying. Maybe because Deji is his friend , he expected him to ask the regular questions but Deji came armed! I left that office with my tail in between my legs, like a lion with no mane. He had successfully opened a wound I had used almost two years to haphazardly patch up. Well I couldn’t possibly say I had successfully healed… But now I have…
I vividly remember my last conversation with him , I told him to choose between me and his gallery of women. I definitely didn’t wait for him to choose though; that was my first step to get emotionally detached from him. Yes it hurt like hell and stung like a bee. It was the second bravest and hardest emotional decision I ever had to make in my entire life. It was even more painful because I loved him like a kid loves ice cream, but we all know that too much ice cream dey run belle. Well,that’s exactly what I got and I needed purging.
I left him for good,I left him like he was the opposite of right. What did I do to get back on my feet? I took a ridiculously brave step and cut off everybody that knew me and Johnny together .Trust me, nobody was standing on the other side, I cut out my entire world. Nothing must ever remind me of him, I said to myself. I focused on my career.
Its been 3 years since this happened . I put an “ex” on him mentally, and he will forever remain “ex’d” in my life. Even though Jeremiah brought me pain, Johnny will give me gain. Somehow, the memory of Jeremiah came to me in a song as Johnny. I only realized this after 2 weeks of being asked everywhere I went; “Who is Johnny”? I always strive to imprint a very large piece of me in all my songs, like I did in “Johnny” and my dear,this is where another story begins! If I ever see Jeremiah a.k.a Johnny again, what should I do to him? (You can tweet your replies @yemialadee ! I’ll be waiting)
The song Johnny is dedicated to anyone who has ever been broken-hearted. Get up and get over it, plenty fish dey for sea!
Yemi Alade (Yemi Eberechi Alade) was born on March 13th, 1989, in Abia State, Nigeria, to Helen Alade (nee Uzoma), a business woman, and James Alade, a retired Police Commissioner . Her mother, a native of south-eastern Nigeria and her father is of south western Nigerian descent, thus earning her the moniker, ‘that yoruba-ibo girl’. She is a graduate of the University of Lagos with a BSc in Geography.She is currently signed to effyzzie music group, and managed by rebel movement.