1. Life got in the way. Somehow, in the midst of the hustle and bustle of everyday life, couples seem to forget about each other. The initial closeness they once felt has been damaged by focus on work, the bills, the kids, you name it.
2. Each takes the other for granted. This can slowly eat away at any connection a couple might feel. What makes it worse is that it is so easy to do. Keeping priorities straight in our stressful lives can be very difficult. We get so caught up in simply living that we forget about making a life with our partner.
3. Each stops treating the other well. Somehow we succumb to the notion that all the things we used to do that brought us together are no longer necessary. It’s like the old joke about the couple that had been married for several years, and one day the wife said to the husband, “You never say you love me anymore!” The husband responds with, “Well, dear, I told you I loved you on our wedding day. If anything changes, I’ll let you know.”
4. Resentments are held. Old grudges, hurts and resentments are a cancer that can eat away at the closeness of a couple.
5. Communication stops. This is the most frequent reason given by couples as a factor in their drifting apart. Once a couple stops communicating, it’s just a matter of time before roommate syndrome sets in.
If you recognize your relationship in the above examples, hang in there; you are not alone, and there is a way out. Couples don’t plan on growing apart, they simply drift apart over time. Just the opposite is true about growing closer again.
You don’t just drift into it, you intentionally take action designed to grow closer together.