There are so many definitions to love and as a matter of fact, the word literally allows for a whole universe of definitions or should I better say – opinions. I believe this is because like experience, love is personal and no matter how much one is taught in theory, experience brings it home, to one’s reality. Now this isn’t intended to be the cliché love talk you are accustomed to hearing or reading, this ‘yarns’, is simply ‘my’ definition of love (But then again, you might already know now wouldn’t you?)
Love to me is accepting
Accepting, first! I believe we get it wrong the moment we think that in order to love someone, they have to change first or naturally blend into our ideals, logic, and lifestyle. They must fit in and meet all the specifications we have listed. Wes Angelozzi said -“Go and love someone exactly as they are and then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their essence, one is instantly empowered”. Love that must be given and gotten back in its purest form is a love not built on a singular individual’s standard, a love that is focused on letting the other in, so that they can be understood from within and not from what outward dictates has to teach about them. This love wouldn’t be fake because each one of the parties just lives and is true to themselves, knowing that who “they” are, is enough for a start. No hiding, no pretence, no corners. This love wouldn’t necessarily happen because it was expected, it happens because it wasn’t.