Star actress and mother of three, Omoni Oboli talking about the importance of family and celebrating children as the children’s day celebration come up in few days. In an exclusive interview with PUNCH, the ‘Wives on Strike’ star gives advice to all stakeholders in child upbringing.
With Children’s Day just around the corner what plans do you have for your children?
To me, everyday is Children’s Day. I don’t think I’ve ever set aside something for Children’s Day, but we usually just make the most of any holidays as family time. We could go out or simply enjoy our own company within the house. I haven’t made any serious plans yet. My husband might have planned something.
Growing up, how did you celebrate Children’s Day?
Then, we had march-past and I was always the leader of the marching group. It was the highlight of those days. Apart from that, nothing else was done except visit and play with our friends. It was fun.
Do you think the society has failed the Nigerian child and how can the situation be remedied?
The society is made of the family unit, and if the family unit fails, then the society will fail. The idea that the government would help you raise your child right, and should be solely blamed shouldn’t be. The responsibility to raise a child right is that of the parents, and if my children turn out wrong, the society shouldn’t be blamed but my husband and I. From this same society, among the rich, the average and the poor communities, there are good children being raised as well as bad children. Neighbours don’t look at an unruly child and say, “The government has spoilt this child”. No! They blame the parents who are the primary caregivers and the source of their discipline. So, to answer your question, I don’t think the society as a whole has failed the child, I believe many parents have failed their own children.
As a mother, what values do you constantly instill in your sons?
Discipline, respect for people and most importantly, the love and fear of God.
Do you engage your sons in the kitchen?
My sons cook, clean and do the laundry. They have to work to understand that life is not about receiving only, but you have to learn to give and offer your services to others. There’s dignity in labour.
Judging by the alarming cases of spousal abuse in the society, how are you raising your sons in this regard?
Like I said, I teach them the love and fear of God. With this alone, there’s no way they can have those tendencies. They also see their father, and learn from his example towards people and me. They are made to understand daily that women are to be loved and cherished.
Who is the stricter parent between you and your husband?
My husband. He is on them like a man protects his daughters. He believes that the men have been neglected as boys, but the world expects them to behave with the highest standards without any training, and that has been the disconnect with the men, when they finally become husbands. Men raise men. Boys don’t raise men.
How do you spend quality time with your family and kids?
Every moment we stay together talking, eating, playing or simply in silence, is quality time. Just knowing that they are all around me is bliss every day.
Source : Punchng.com