I hope you know that you are brave, you are smart, and you are a hero. I don’t know you, but I know that you have given a voice to the thousands of women that have been assaulted. I am Super Proud of You!!
You went to a party with the intention of simply having a good time with your sister. You went to a party just like most girls in their 20’s do. You went to a party with no intention of being raped. Yet, you were painted as someone that had too much to drink and consented to being sexually assaulted.
You fell into the wrong hands that night and then were made to look like the bad guy.
Why is it that when a woman is assaulted people feel the need to ask, “What was she wearing? Was she drinking? Why was she partying?”
It does not matter what the woman was wearing or how much she was drinking. The problem with today’s world is how we put all of the focus on the women and what she did “wrong.” How about we start focusing on the men and holding them accountable for their actions. Let’s teach men not to rape. Sounds stupid doesn’t it? Just like it sounds stupid to tell a woman how she should act so she doesn’t get assaulted. Let’s teach men that it’s not okay to take advantage of a woman that is in no condition to give consent.
Your rapist could have chosen to do the right thing that day. He could have chosen to take you home or help you with what you actually came for. Instead, he took it upon himself to violate you just because he could. No one gave him that right.
You are a survivor. Your decision to speak out is one of the most courageous things I have ever seen anyone do. I don’t know you, but I stand by you. You are so brave and your words have made a difference. You have shown that speaking out is important and that words can make one hell of a difference.