All relationships face their difficulties. At some point or another, a spouse or partner is going to betray your trust. It is how you deal with acts of betrayal that matter the most.
Being able to forgive a partner for his or her transgressions is the key to a successful relationship.
How does forgiveness work?
Forgiveness is tough. It involves letting go of negative feelings about a partner’s misdeeds, not seeking revenge or holding a grudge, and viewing a partner in a positive light
Not being able to forgive a spouse or partner creates distance, leads to feelings of anger and isolation, and it can have a negative impact on your health.
How exactly do you forgive a partner when they have done you wrong?
The first step in the process of forgiveness involves expressing your anger and having it acknowledged. It is important to express how you are feeling. If you don’t express your true feelings, they are likely to resurface, making forgiveness difficult to do.
Contextualize the Problem
After your feelings have been acknowledged, it is time to make sense of what happened. Now is the time to ask questions and hear your partner’s side of the story. Explanations can and should be offered, but only when you are ready to hear them.
The basics of forgiveness?
Your feelings need to be acknowledged, your partner must accept responsibility, and you need view what happened in overall scheme of things.
Genuine forgiveness keeps relationships healthy and strong.