Most people have made (and broken) New Year’s resolutions at one time or another. Perhaps you’ve promised to improve your life this year by losing weight, exercising more or quitting a bad habit.
Such self-improvement goals are great, but if you are one-half of a couple, the health of your relationship islikely to have the biggest impact on how happy you will be throughout the calendar year.
So, we’ve put together some simple “relationship resolutions” to help you put more love into your love life. If you are currently dating or married, these 12 relationship resolutions for the next 12 months will help you and your loved one to have a truly happy new year.
Resolution #1: Make your relationship number one.
Every relationship requires work, and you have to be willing to commit the needed time and energy to it. So, the first step is to make improving your relationship a priority this year. If your loved one is truly important to you, they should be a top focus of your time and efforts.
Resolution #2: Accentuate the positive.
It is OK to discuss ways your partner could improve or point out something they do that is bugging you. However, too much correction or negativity can make anyone feel unworthy and unloved. “We are quick to criticize and find fault and pick on shortcomings, but fall short on showing how much we care. So make sure you are giving far more compliments than criticisms. Kurland recommends giving three sincere compliments a day to your loved one. “Three compliments a day is a simple reminder and easy way to make a conscious effort to ‘build up’ the relationship instead of breaking it down.”
Resolution #3: Schedule a weekly date night.
In many long-term relationships, life gets busy and couples stop making time to really be together as a couple. By committing to having a date night once a week, you ensure that you won’t let your relationship slip through the cracks. According to a study by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, married couples who date each other at least once a week are three times as likely to be satisfied in love, and roughly half as likely to consider divorce, as couples who go on dates less often.